Foot Washing vs. Being Polite
Last night in our small group discussing the spiritual gift of service, we came up with two amazing ideas: 1) When we think we are offering to serve someone and therefore fulfilling our “service quota”, we are really only being polite. 2) If you eat a powdered donut and a strawberry at the same time, it is an explosion of flavor much like a strawberry shortcake po’boy. Obviously, we just want to talk about #1 right now, but I encourage you to head to the store after to get supplies for a shortcake po’boy.
Have you ever gone up to someone that has recently had a “life event” (recent sickness, family emergency, school issues, etc.) or someone that you know that just has a lot going on and said, “Hey, if you need something or need me to help you, just let me know. I am here for you.” Sure you have, we have all said it. In our small group the other night, we realized something. We don’t really mean it. We need to abolish from our rhetoric the phrase, “If you need something (or any help), let me know.” And I will tell you why.
This phrase is fundamentally flawed due to our culture. By saying this to someone who is clearly in need, we inadvertently put the responsibility back on them to call for help (no one wants to do that!) and to possibly impose on you. It’s like the exchange, “How are you? I’m fine.” We ask, but we really don’t want to know. When we tell them to call us for help, it sounds good when we say it. We pat ourselves on the back for how willing we are to serve, but truly, we know they will not call us (and we are really busy anyway). So, what is the solution?
We came up with the idea that maybe we need to change our approach. Remember the last supper in John 13, when Jesus asked the disciples, “Hey guys, if you need me to wash your feet, let Me know.” No? Me either. In that moment, Jesus truly wanted to serve them, and show them the perfect model of service. So, He wrapped a towel around His waist and just did it. He didn’t take no for an answer either, when Peter tried to refuse.
Washing your feet was as much a practical thing as a cultural thing back then. The dusty roads created dirty feet, and it was a way for them to refresh themselves and relax after being outside walking the roads. If you were wealthy enough, you had people there to wash your guests’ feet (a very lowly task), but if not, hospitality required that you provide them with a basin of water and a towel for them to do it themselves. (1 Sam. 25:41; Luke 7:40-50; 1 Tim. 5:10) For a host to wash a guests’ feet would be unheard of as it was not their responsibility, but yet we see Jesus, the Son of God, do it. The implication here is not that we need to go around asking people to take of their socks and let us wash their feet, but that we need to be able to humble ourselves and perform tasks for our brothers and sisters that need to be done, regardless of what they are.
So, applying this is easier than you may think. People who need help, need help. They don’t need our politeness. So what if we ask them like this:
“When would be a good time for me to come clean your apartment for you?”
“I want to come over and cook you dinner? I know you are super busy. What night is good for you?”
“I know your car needs an oil change, when can I take it in for you this week?”
“Hey, I am at the store getting groceries, I’m going to get you some stuff, what can I get you?”
“What are some things that you don’t feel like you can get to this week? I want to do one of those for you.”
All that instead of saying, “Let me know if I can help you in any way,” because that is just a hollow offer. Jesus humbled Himself as a servant and led like no other. He said for those of you who want to be great, must first become like a servant. (Matthew 20:26) Not just asking to make ourselves feel good or sound caring, but actually serving others. Just doing it.
So, let’s serve like Jesus. Let’s stop being polite, and let’s start really seeking to live that out from a heart of gratitude for what Christ has done for us!
